Parents’ Fears

I heard my husband talking to our daughter while she was sitting on his lap. He said,”Anak, bakit ang bilis mong lumaki?” Our daughter replied innocently,“E Papa, hindi ko mapipigilan yon.” My husband said “When you grow up, I can’t carry you like this anymore.” I thought it is just me who has fears about our daughter’s growing up. Do all parents have these fears?

She’ll be in her teens in a few years. Time will come that she won’t go with us to the church or mall anymore because she has friends to go with. What if she confides problems and shares secrets with her friends instead of us…she has to go home late because she has party to attend to…she needs to sleep on her classmate’s house to do some projects or thesis…she falls in love and have her first broken heart? What if she marries a guy like my kumpare and the husband of my nakakaawang kapitbahay?

My daughter is right. Growing up is beyond our control. As parents, we are just here to guide, discipline and teach them…teach them to be God-fearing…to be good persons…to be sensitive to other’s feelings yet strong enough to face problems and challenges. We are here to give unconditional love, instill values and lead them to the right path.

As for now, we’ll just carry, hug and kiss her as often as we can. We’ll spend more time with her and let her enjoy her childhood.

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  2. thanks, miel. my dad had to work abroad to send us all 6 children to school so lumaki kaming wala sya most of the time. I was in college already when he decided to work here. but it is too late because we are not close to him, we can’t share even a little problem with him.

    may be I am afraid for my daughter to experience that. I know I am being over protective sometimes.

    have a nice day!

  3. IM not yet a mom but I have to tell you that thinking that way for your child, your daughter is so blessed to have parents like you, honestly… I do not have perfect parents but I am also very blessed they love me and they’ve raised me and my brothers well ^_^ I may not be a perfect daughter but I’ll always thank God for my parents, I know your daughter will grow up to be a fine young lady like you hoped and wished for ^_^

  4. 6 yars old ang anak mo may crush na, si Roan ko 6 years old may girlfriend na raw siya sa school, si Mc Kenzie, wahhhh! Ang bata pa alam na ang girlfriend, at nag di dream daw siya na kini kiss niya si McKenzie, mas huwaaa! naman yun..Hehehe!

    Hay, guidance na lang ang pwede natin ibigay sa kanya. Pag tuntong ng teen ager mga kids natin, wala na tayo kontrol sad gusto ng puso nila, maging friend na lang na lang nila tayo, maybe that way eh alam natin ang kanilang aktibidades.

  5. Sensya na, Liz ha nagkaproblema kase sa comment ko e. Hindi ko alam bakit nawala comment box.

    Biggest fear ko ay kung makapag-asawa anak ko ng iresponsable at tamad. naku, babawiin ko talaga sya!

    Noong isang araw pag-uwi nya sabi ba naman may crush daw sya sa school. Wag daw ako magagalit kase crush lang naman daw. 6 yrs. old lang anak ko may crush na?!! Grrr! Pero hindi ako nagalit. Ipinakwento ko kung bakit nya naging crush. Magaling daw kase magsayaw. Susmaryosep! Wala kase syang lakaro dito sa amin na ka-age nya. Lahat matanda sa kanya ng 2-4 yrs. Kaya siguro alam na nya ang crush.

    Alam mo tama ka, tayo ang huhubog sa pagkatao ng anak natin. Sa atin nakadepende kung ano sila paglaki. Salamat sa mga comments mo. Maganda lahat. c”,)

    March 21, 2009 2:39 AM

  6. Payatot, ang hirap pala pag isa lang anak ano? Nagiging over protective mga magulang. Ang anak ko 6y/o na pero hindi pa rin marunong umakyat sa hagdan na mag-isa. Minsan siguro may mali din tayong mga magulang.

    Tama ka, dapat palaging may communication. Pag may nagagawa syang hindi tama kinakausap ko sya ng maayos para hindi sya matakot at hindi magsinungaling.

    Ngayon nga may fever sya. nagswimming kase, baka masyadong nababad. Haaay, hindi na naman ako makakatulog nito.

  7. Ayan, finally nakakapag comment na ko. Tagal ko rin nag try mag comment huh.

    Well, lahat tayong mga magulang eh may takot para sa ating mga anak. Kung ano sila paglaki nila, kung sila ba eh mapapabuti or mapapasama. Naniniwala ako na nasa pagpapalaki at pagmamahal natin kung ano sila balang araw. Lumaki ako na hindi ko nakita ang mga magulang ong nag away. Nagkamali man ako noon, eh dahil napalayo ako sa kanila at nagkaroon ako ng sariling isip na hindi ko naman pinagsisisihan. Mabait naman akong tao at hindi ako gumagawa ng masama sa aking kapwa.

    Mapagmahl akong ina dahil yan ang nakita ko sa aking sariling mother. Wala tayong control sa labas ng ating tahanan. Kung ganon natin pinoprotektahan ang ating mga anak sa loob ng ating bahay, pag labas nila eh mas marami ang taong pwedeng maka impluwensiya sa kanila. And it’s beyond our control.

    Wag kang matakot, basta ginagawa mo ang lahat para sa ikakabuti ng anak mo,w ala kang pagsisisihan balang araw. Enjoy your time with your daughter so she can carry that moments when she leads her own path. Ingat..

  8. alam mo pareho tayo ng sitwasyon dahil isa lang din ang anak ko..ito namang anak ko e 11 yrs old na pero ang tingin ko sa kanya parang bata pa rin, kahit nga sa umaga na pagpasok nya gigisingin ko sa pagtulog nya..hindi sya tatayo hanggat di ko sya binubuhat palabas ng room…

    nakakatakot nga lang kase habang lumalaki ang anak natin e nagkakagusto sila, andyan yung crush na akala nila pag ibig na..sempre pag di tayo close sa kanila itatago nila yan sa atin di ba?

    kumbaga komunikasyon lang din ang kelangan ano? dun tayo hahawak para di sila maligaw lalo na at babae pareho anak natin..

  9. Payatot, try ko itong pop-up window sa comment. Di ko alam bakit nawala comment box ko. Baka sakaling mag-work ito. Ano kaya nangyari? Waaah!

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