Loving Discipline

Finally, I got a message from Tita Edna through Facebook. We haven’t heard from her since she went to Chicago and it’s been ages. By the way, Tita Edna is Mom’s sister. We’re very happy to know that she is fine together with her family. She was like my second mother. I lived with them when I was in college. I was not very close with her though because she was kind of strict that I really had to toe the line. No, she was not a spanker but she’s a disciplinarian and I found her so intimidating. I thought that she was controlling me so I left their house without a word and lived with my other aunt.

Tita Edna with her family

As I mature I understand that what Tita Edna did was for my own good, that she just wanted me to finish my studies, have a good life and be a responsible adult. I haven’t thanked her yet for everything so I want to send her a beautiful bouquet of her favorite flowers through Chicago flower delivery. That is to show my appreciation, love and affection for her loving discipline after so many years. I think this Mother’s day would be the pecfect time to do that.

Now that I am a mother and an aunt to five active kids, I know exactly how Tita Edna feels. Just like her, I believe in loving discipline and caring correction. I do not believe in physical punishment but I scold and lecture them when they thrive on boundaries. I know they sometimes find me strict and intimidating but time will come they would understand that they have to be taught discipline.

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Cheaters Never Win

RJs final exam started yesterday. I am proud that she did great on the first day. As I have mentioned on my previous post, it is somehow become a tradition for me to make her reviewer days before the exam week. It is not just to make everything easier for her but to instill good study habits as well.

Yesterday she brought her reviewers with her in school because the teachers give them few minutes to review before the test. She was reviewing in English Communication Arts when one of her classmates, a girl, approached her. She told RJ that it is not the test. How could that be? I made the reviewers out of the pointers given by their teachers. Of course it is not the same as the test exactly, if she meant by that. Who would know how the test paper exactly looks like unless she has a copy of it? Oh yeah, the girl was bragging that she has a copy of the test in English Communication Arts.

It is sad to know that there are adults who are teaching children that cheating is a fact of school life. Don’t they know that by tolerating, cheating can become a habit until the child gets old? Now I understand why while my daughter was studying, the girl was just playing and not reviewing the past weekend. Why should she? She can get high points anyway because she BS her way through it. Poor girl, she doesn’t know that she is not really earning good grades. Can someone teach her to do it fair and square and help her realize that cheaters never win and winners never cheat?

Parents must set as good examples. How can you teach your children to be honest if you are feeding them the answers to the tests and tolerating them to cheat? Remember that your children look up to you as their role model and they are taking note of your every action.

 

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Instilling Good Study Habits

It seems like just yesterday when RJ graduated from preparatory school.

Now, she is on the 3rd grade that will be over soon in a week. It’s their finals next week and I am busy making her reviewers to make everything easier for her and of course to instill her good study habits. I do not want RJ to find her self cramming for each test that is why I am making reviewers for each subject days before the exam. I even make trial exams by redoing her past quizzes and tests and let her answer them. By doing so, I can easily assess what topics she finds hard to understand or what subjects are difficult for her.

During the exam week, I do not allow her to play outside so she can concentrate more on the review but I give her break in between if she is going to study for a long time. I let her study in the bedroom with the air condition on to make it more conducive. And if I notice that she is a little sleepy, I let her take a nap and allow her to get enough sleep at night so she will be refreshed and ready for the exams the next day.

The ability of our children to absorb what is being taught to them varies. But either fast learner or slow learner needs our guidance to help them absorb information easily. It minimizes the stress during the exam and maximizes productivity and results. It also helps in instilling good study habits that our children can apply when they are big enough to review on their own.

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Baby No More

Today is not a very good day for us. RJ is sick and so she will miss her scouting and all her subjects. She came home from school yesterday not feeling very well. Last night she did not want to eat so I was obliged to feed her before giving her meds. While feeding her, I realized how big she has grown. Our baby is baby no more. I guess in a year or two we will need to change her bed with a bigger one.

I was supposed to sleep with her in the bedroom last night to monitor her temperature but she said she can manage. OUCH! I am proud that our daughter is growing up with independence but apparently there are times she does not need Mommy’s help anymore and it hurts sometimes. Yes, she won. She slept alone and I slept with hubby but was forced to set the alarm of my clock to every four hours to monitor her temperature and give her meds.

RJ is big girl now but I cannot help myself seeing her as my baby. How I miss the days that I have to feed her because she cannot eat on her own yet and how I miss the nights she sleeps with us in one room and crawls on our bed because she had a bad dream. But that is how parents’ life is. Time will come that our handholding with her would end and she will need to make her own footprints in the sands of her life. When that time comes, we are confident that she can make it because she is sensible, independent, and have big faith in God.

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Childhood Seems to End Too Soon

I love these pictures so much. Watching her while she’s on the swing made me wonder how big she had grown. It seems like yesterday when she was born and now she will be on her tweens in a couple of years.


She is still playful but most of the time she is asking questions about boys and telling me stories about her crush. Our baby is getting smarter and curious everyday and childhood seems to end too soon. There are times I do not want to give her milk and multivitamin supplements because I think she is growing up too fast. If only she could be a baby forever. I know eventually we have to let her go. But for now, we will just enjoy every minute of her childhood.

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